Grhasthas should live independently
Satsvarupa Dasa Goswami: Srila Prabhupada's Godbrother criticized that Prabhupada has a business background but he doesn't. He has always been a Vaisnava. He was implying that he's a preacher and Prabhupada is a businessman. Prabhupada said yes, and described his preaching as business with four factors: place (America), organization (ISKCON), capital, and brains.
He was asked how Chota Haridasa was liberated by his suicide after his offense. He said Chota Haridasa was the personal servant of Lord Caitanya Mahaprabhu. How could he be fallen? But he was meant to show the example that if you fall down, the only thing is to commit suicide. I asked what about Nectar of Devotion which says that devotional service is so pure that one doesn't have to do prayascitta? He said it was not prayascitta, it was an example.
Lord Caitanya Mahaprabhu is as hard as a thunderbolt, soft as a rose. One devotee said that if in ISKCON we did this. Prabhupada said that to fall down is already suicide. Prabhupada was also asked how 1/11th of a second's association with a pure devotee can give liberation.
He said, "it depends on whether the wood is dry it can immediately flare up. The process to make it dry is following the regulative principles. But if you make it dry, then again dip it in water, what good is that?" Someone remarked how much more beautiful the land looked now that so many devotees were here. Yes, Srila Prabhupada said, that is why I built this house first. Some criticized, 'Why not a temple?' But I thought, 'Where will they live?' (A devotee is more important than God.) If there is only the Deity, it is like a stone idol. He told me not to take on too much temple management.
Your most important work is going to the colleges, the standing orders and reviews. He looked at his desk where I think there was a list of the standing orders. No more than four or five temples. You are going and speaking at the colleges. He said, concerning the GBC being criticized, that it's not that a resolution should be passed that they should not be criticized but they should be above it: Caesar's wife should be above suspicion. He deplored the grhastha-sannyasa party fighting. Sex should be made nil. That is a great victory. Polygamy? No! No polygamy. We are trying to make sex nil. When too many questions were asked such as, Should a brahmacari be averse or neutral toward women, etc? He said too much detail will make us lose the central thing; it is niyamagraha, too much attention to the rules and regulations.
He didn't like children howling and bowling in the Vrndavana temple. Retired men come there to get away from family. Men, after a few children, should stop. Not that as a grhastha he should have unlimited sex. Then he can separate from his wife. If they live in a secluded place there will naturally be no sex life. That is natural. (So, can they live separately in the temples? Devotees asked many questions. He seemed to approve separation in different temples, but the husband has to pay for the wife.) Grhasthas should live independently.